Archive | January 11, 2012

Getting to know you… well, me really.

Getting to know all about you. Getting to know you like me.

Something like that. I remember seeing the King and I on the stage when I was 6 years old. We went downtown to Chicago and saw Yul Brenner in his best role ever. Bald and bare chested. But I was 6, I wasn’t paying attention to that. I liked Anna’s dress. Oh my goodness, how I wanted a hoop skirt with yards and yards of shiny silk to flow over it! I wanted to dance and waltz and sing. My blog byline is ‘Confessions of a Middle Aged Drama Queen’ for goodness sake!

Thank you to Heather Christena Schmidt over at the B(itch) Blog AND Hyperactive Inefficiency for both awarding me with the Versatile Blogger Award.  You both are awesome and I love reading your works. Please visit their posts and enjoy them too.

This means a lot to me, because a) I like to be liked b) I am a Leo and need attention and c) I feel insecure about my blogging so I like it when other blogs reach a virtual hand out to me and pat me on the back.

So typically these chainletter types of blog awards have me disclose something about myself and then pay it forward by awarding other blogs with these awards. Like Duck, Duck Goose; or Heads Up Seven UP. You pick your friends and then they pick you.

So here’s 7 things you shouldn’t know about me but will now, followed by 15 blogs I’ve discovered to be interesting.

1) I have done the flying trapeze 5 times. I even did a stunt on it. This wasn’t in the circus, but still. I was sweating bullets and almost peed my pants. But I did it.

2) I love crap television. Scoff all you want- Kardashians, Jerseylicious, Real Housewives, Pregnant in Heels. It’s mind-numbingly awesome.

3) I’ve never done recreational drugs. Not one puff of pot. Can’t even handle Tylenol with Codeine. I’m so boring.

4) Saw my first opera at age 8. It was Carmen and I loved it.

5) Wanted desperately to be a jockey when I was ages 7 to 11. I think this was fueled by watching movies like The Black Stallion, International Velvet and episodes of Little House. I wanted to be around horses. I was already too tall though.

6) I love clipping my son’s toenails. It’s weird. But this list is supposed to be REVEALING.

7) I wish Branston Pickle was a condiment in America.

Now to name 15 blogs that are interesting to me – visit them.

I am bestowing the Versatile Blogger to you so please be sure to thank me in your acceptance speeches. You’re welcome:

Pickahling

Good Humored

Today in Heritage History

Blurt

Girl on the Contrary

The Mainland

Live Learn and Dream

Snoring Dog Studio

The Flight of Reason

The Witty and the Mundane

Absolutely Ravenous

PCC Advantage

Barking in the Dark

For Better Genius

I Can’t High Five

Kids these days need to just deal.

Take your lumps. Suck it up. You know. Kids these days are coddled. What, with their Starbucks and iPads. Often I play good cop/bad cop by myself not just with James. And yes, I’m talking about parenting, not our bedroom secrets.

My parents raised me with respecting me as a person. Not the ‘children should be seen and not heard’ method. They respected us as individuals, people with independent thoughts and needs. There was little tolerance for any misbehaving. We were given expectations and we met them. But we were also nurtured and loved openly with affection, affirmation and freedom.

With that said, I try to incorporate that into the upbringing of my children.

But gosh darn, this day and age is making it really difficult. I’ve been clear before in posts that I don’t sugar coat my parenting much. Yes, my children have it good. They know this too. Which is what I think, eliminates them from being spoiled. I think ‘spoiled’ is when kids have it good, don’t appreciate they have it so good and are rude and disrespectful to those around them, misbehave and act entitled. This does not describe my children (most of the time). BUT every now and then, Ugly Mommy comes out. I will lose my temper, raise my voice and scream something like, “Get your little self up to bed before you really regret it!” or “Don’t make me take away your cell phone!”. “If you use that tone of voice with me, you will be sorry you were born!” Which is really a stupid thing to say since I brought them in to this world. I don’t think children need to be beholden to their parents for giving them life. They didn’t ask for it. You choose them (sort of), they don’t get to choose you.

Also, I am not afraid of saying no. There are a lot of books on this, articles on this and I can give you the 101 in two words. Say no.

Saying NO makes the YES that much sweeter. I say no when I think there’s any chance my child might get kidnapped or hit by a car. I say no when it doesn’t work out with the family’s plan, makes (too much) extra work for me, interferes with school, or is expensive.

Mom, can I go to the ice rink at 10 on a Friday night. No.

Mom, can I walk to Blockbuster with so-and-so. No.

Mom, can I go with so-and-so and her mom to the mall and help her pick out a new outfit. Yes.

Oh thank you, you’re the best.

Mom, I don’t like this zucchini, can I have carrots instead- YES. (I hate zucchini too)

Pick your battles.

So your daughter wants to wear a shirt that says, “I’m too pretty for homework”. Uhm, this is a NO. It falls in the ‘interferes with school’ category.   She wants to color her hair with a streak of hot pink on the side. Sure. This isn’t permanent (tatt00 or piercing permanent), doesn’t cause harm, and isn’t that expensive. Pick your battles.

Wasn’t that easy?

Principles of lumping it:

If you are at Starbucks and the pastries in the case are not what you are looking forward to, i.e. lemon pound cake- you will not cry or whine. You choose something else, or do without.

If the XBOX game you got for Christmas is too hard to do without dad’s help- you will not whine and throw the controller into the couch. You will take a breath, take a break, and wait for daddy to come home from work to play it with you.

If your cell phone runs out of charge because you left it by your bedside to text your friends late at night, it is not your mom’s fault.

If the show you DVR’d on Nickelodeon or Discovery didn’t get recorded because of mommy’s recording of Whitney- we do not throw a fit.

It’s clear to everyone in this household that really, I am the only one who can throw fits. Usually about two days out of the month I go all ‘honey badger’ on the family. It’s not too bad really. It keeps them on their toes.  I don’t like to yell. It tires me out and makes me feel awful. Especially when Owen gets tears in his eyes and looks at me like I kicked a puppy. He’s very sensitive and always tells me, ‘mom you don’t have to scream at me, just ask nicely’.

I hate it when they’re right.