RTLF #22 – my kids

Way back when, before there was Owen, we considered Emma might be an only child. My pregnancy was tough with her. My post partum was no picnic either. Unless it’s a picnic where fire ants crawl in your pants, sting your crotch and wild honey badgers shred your nipples. Not pretty.

James probably had a coronary five times over stressing about the health of his wife and unborn child in a time span of 3 months. He figured we were done in the baby gestating department.

But once the baby-nesia set in, and I was ready for another, I convinced James that Emma needed a sibling. That she wasn’t going to be the token child of some sweet, middle class couple who doted on her and was totally whipped because she was the center of our universe. It was important for her to have a sibling, a counterpart in the family. And if we could grow that little cabbage patch kid ourselves, let’s give it a go.

After Emma’s second birthday, the idea of being pregnant again didn’t seem like a horrible  idea anymore. So sure enough, I got knocked up, and that baby turned out to be Owen. She had just turned 3 when he was born.

Despite the early years of whining, bickering, throttling, and basic sibling rivalry between them, we’ve turned a corner.

Every now and then the uterus spawn will do something to shock and awe you into thinking that maybe they won’t kill and hate each other forever.

This week, Emma wrote an essay on how her favorite thing to do is spend time with her brother. I think the earth stopped spinning for just a milisecond there out of shear WTFness.

The following is her words, and yes, I melted reading this.

“I have had many memories, but my favorite ones are with my brother. My most cherished moment in my life happened when I was three years old. My Oma and Opa woke me up early in the morning with smiles on their faces to tell me my brother was born.  We drove to the hospital to see the new addition to my family.  When we arrived to our destination I remember being filled with glee.  With my baby doll in my arms that I named Owen to prepare for holding the real Owen, I sat down in the big hospital chair and my father placed my brother in my arms. With the amount of tears and cameras out I knew that it was an important moment. Today, there are small moments that I cling to such as beating my brother at Mario Kart, him saying I look pretty, or even when he laughs at my joke.

Another reason why spending time with my brother is important is he has always been there for me. Two years ago I had a back injury that had me in bed for a week. During the bed rest period I was helpless and scared because I didn’t know what was wrong with me and I couldn’t even walk to the bathroom by myself.  One of the hard days I was really emotional and I needed cheering up. My brother, being the cute little boy he is, came up to me and handed me one of his stuffed animals. It was a giant, blue cookie monster from Sesame Street. He told me to get better soon and he loved me. His words of encouragement were just what I needed. The days of hurt went by faster and I was soon fully recovered. That was one of the many examples of Owen being by my side and helping me get through something. I loved every second of my brother’s words of wisdom.

In conclusion, spending time with my brother, Owen is my favorite thing to do because of amazing memories we have had, him always having my back and life lessons we have had together.”

Emma is turning this essay in today and I needed a copy of it to prove to her she did once write this. My work here is done people.

8 thoughts on “RTLF #22 – my kids

  1. Oh man that is so worthy of copying and being laminated and framed and cherished forever more!!! And the next time he pisses her off, she needs to read it. Over and over.

    Awesome job, lady! You’re doing it right!!


  2. That Emma even remembers the morning of Owen’s arrival is amazing. Now I know how she felt then, and yes, the beginning of these two being sister and brother was such a blessed day.
    I am so touched by her writing this. You have been given such treasures to nourish and raise.

  3. Ahhh…so sweet! You know what awful mother that I am said on occasion? “Someday your father and I are going to be gone and you sister is the only one who is going to be there for you and remember your childhood. Now get over it!” Nothing like telling a kid their mom and dad are going to die to make them stop fighting with ther sister!

  4. Wow, that is amazing. What a sweet girl and what a loving description of her relationship with her brother. How awesome that she knows how blessed she is at 12 years of age. You are obviously doing things very, very right in your household. Blessings to you & James! xoxo Julie

  5. This is ugly-cry-making. Your work IS done. Nothing short of amazing. I always tell my kids how I only realised my brother was my friend when I was 17 and he lived on another continent. I really want them to come to this realisation NOW, while they still have years of play left together. I love this BIG time.

    PS – your postpartum/picnic description… some of your best work. I was screeching. Then crying. Oh man…not pretty…

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